Love Dare – Day 7

List all the positive and negative qualities about your spouse.

NOTE 1: I’m only going to list the positive ones on this blog in case you’re scrolling to find all the ammunition for some juicy gossip!

NOTE 2: This will not be a list of ALL the positive things about Kristin. That would simply take too much time and space for this blog. Rather, I’ll keep this list to a readable length by including some of my favorite aspects of her.

Positively Spectacular Things About Kristin Margaret Franke!

  • She loves Jesus
    • Sometimes I watch her as she journals, and every so often I can see her relationship with God unfold before my eyes as she pours her heart onto the pages
    • She’s disciplined and dedicated with her spiritual promises and commitments, and it simultaneously inspires me and makes me feel guilty (see Day 5, point #1 for more details)
  • She’s beautiful
    • Inside and out (yeah, I have a hott wife!)
  • She is, hands down, one of the best female ultimate players in all of Asia
    • This is bittersweet for me. I’m super proud of her, and yet I wish I could achieve a similar status among the guys
    • I’m looking forward to seeing her play at higher levels in the US
  • She’s sociable and able to navigate various types of friend circles
  • She can cook some delicious dishes, especially her lasagna and enchiladas
  • She is fantastic with kids
    • I will never be as patient or compassionate as her when it comes to absurd behavior from the youth
    • She makes lots of intentional time with kids and is very consistent to follow through with her promises and commitments to them
  • She’s timely and sometimes even manages to keep me on time on our way to social events
  • She’s not too girly
    • She’s willing to work hard and get her hands dirty. This goes for household chores as well as labor intensive mission trips to third world countries
    • She doesn’t obsess over her personal appearance when it comes to make up or accessories. There’s enough to show she cares, but it’s never tacky or overdone
  • She lets me be myself – most of the time (sometimes being myself gets me in trouble!)

Thanks for being awesome hottie! Love you!!



Being One of the Good Guys

This is not a post about good versus bad people.

we tell jokes

Instead, I’ve been reflecting on what it means to have good, solid, male friendships. I feel like I’m coming full circle in the way that I relate to other guys. Growing up, I was very comfortable with hanging out with other dudes – ¬†letting our guards down, acting weird, and being very real in conversation.

And then I got to know a girl. And then another. And another…

real men sit in tandem

In spite of the wonderful time I spent with my previous girlfriends, girls (as a whole) took away some prime portions of my life. I’m married now, and my wife is complimenting me in ways I never could’ve dreamed (Thank you Kristin).¬†However, before marriage, my time spent with other girls really detracted from my male friendships, and I’m beginning to see the way it affected me deeply and negatively.

But the only reason that I’m noticing is because I’ve finally redeveloped some healthy, male friendships.Many male leaders in the Bible had them: Moses had Aaron, Joshua had Caleb, David had Jonathan, Paul had Barnabas, and Jesus had his very own band of brothers.

There are plenty of precedents to present a case that all men need at least one regular guy in their life to keep them accountable, provide encouragement, and generally have some fun.

I’m glad to have some good guys in my life. I can almost sense that my life is a bit more balanced in some areas due to these friendships. Now I just have to maintain these solid “guy times” while also prioritizing quality time with my wife! Easier said than done…