Learning About Leadership

God has blessed me with leadership qualities. However, this is something that I’ve been reluctant to embrace. I tend to err on the side of gentleness rather than on the opposite end where tyrants are born. However, it’s time I “seize my manhood” (no sexual pun intended) and be the man God has called me to be.

It’s time I step it up in my marriage, and it’s time I embrace responsibility. Some things that come to mind are: setting budgets (and sticking to them), planning my travels (and not just letting Kristin do that), helping more with chores and errands (especially paying the bills), setting more long term goals (in both my career and marriage), making date nights sacred again (and not letting things like the NFL interrupt these days), and honoring a Sabbath day (and actually spending it with Jesus).

One other area that I want to practice leadership is with my guy friends. Somehow I’ve ended up as the point-man in a small group on Tuesday nights where we’re working through a curriculum called Men’s Fraternity . I’ve participated in a similar group with Union Church, and it was quite eye-opening. However, I haven’t put all the things I learned into practice. My goal, as I watch this DVD sermon series a second time, is two fold: 1. To more intentionally apply the things I learn, and 2. To facilitate discussions well with my guy friends, being the leader I know I can be.

These are seemingly insurmountable goals. However, I know they are achievable in time and with God’s help.

I can do all things through him who strengthens me. -Philippians 4:13

And this other verse is why I want to be motivated to do these things:

If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is,seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. -Colossians 3:1-3


Submitting To Authority

Romans 13:1

Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God.

1 Peter 5:5

Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”


Acts 5:29

But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men.”

I’ve been struggling to obey authority. However, it’s NOT because I don’t WANT to obey authority. I don’t have some special desire to seek the destruction of institutions, nor am I an anarchist. Rather, I have trouble obeying authority when there is a conflict of interests and a lack of respect for the person I’m supposed to submit to. I really want to see my boss lead with a spirit of humility, just as Jesus did when He washed His disciples’ feet.

But I think that’s only part of the problem.

light will shine

I know that I’m part of a human institution, and because of that there will always be conflict. I’m human. I’m sinful. Therefore, part of the problem is within me. I have some soul-searching to do in the very near future, and I hope that I can come to terms with my role and youth ministry position within my church. I need God to help heal the deep struggles in my heart.

Hopefully, a light will shine and pierce the darkness within and without…