Here are some good questions for me to answer today:
- How deliberate am I about making sure my wife’s needs are met?
- Am I overly concerned about Kristin fulfilling my needs?
- Am I owning up to my own faults?
- Can Kristin say that I wronged her or wounded her in any way and never made it right?
The point of me answering these questions is to learn to take responsibility. Responsibility for my wrongful actions. Responsibility for my wrongful omissions. Responsibility to learn from my mistakes and change my future behavior.
As I thought about this, the love dare book reminded me to keep something in mind as I did: “This doesn’t mean you’re always wrong and your spouse is always right. This is not a demand that you become a doormat…Part of taking responsibility is admitting when you’ve failed and asking for forgiveness.”
Today I took the time to reflect and ask God for forgiveness and the strength to be a better husband. I know that I regularly make mistakes and have a lot to learn. I know that I’ll have to consistently work on this aspect of our relationship. Fortunately, I couldn’t come up with something that Kristin and I haven’t addressed. We’re pretty good about discussing our problems soon after they arise, and I hope this will always be a trademark of the way we handle conflict.