Love Dare – Day 22

What would you do if you were told, “Say to your spouse today, I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return?”

Doing it is different than saying it. Demonstrating love to your spouse even if you’re frustrated or upset is one thing. Telling it to their face puts your spouse in quite the awkward situation. Thanks Love Dare.

After putting the dare off all day, I went ahead and did it. I pulled my wife aside from the computer and bluntly blurted a similar phrase. “Kristin, I love you. I always will. And I will choose to love you even if you choose not to love me back.”

Let it be known there was no romance. There were no fireworks. There was no thanking me and telling me how sweet it was to know that I felt that way. Nope, none. Instead, I was greeted with, “WHAT????!!!” and no other words.

Kristin thought that a tragedy had struck. Or that a friend of mine was in dire straights with their marriage. Or that I had a big confession to make. When I denied all these things, she kept pressing where in the world my statement came from. In trying to keep a secret, I explained there was a reason for it and that it wasn’t quite out of the blue as she thought. I had to add at the end that there were no negative motivations behind my declaration and that she should just tuck my statement away and save that nugget for a rainy day.

Geesh. Sometimes I can’t believe the extent of my commitment to the 40-day love dare challenge!


Love Dare – Day 20

Today was another, non-tangible, indirect dare, and it was also a continuation of accepting Jesus as my Lord and Savior.

Cool and not cool.

Here are the cool things abou this:

  • I like how the authors recognize that unconditional love is rooted in Christ. In order to selflessly love on a consistent basis, it has to come from a source that is greater than my own ability to love. It’s reminding me that I can love because Christ first loved me. (1 John 4:19)
  • I also like how the authors are hopeful that non-Christians are reading the book.

On the other hand, as a committed Christian, I’d like to get back to actually doing something when I’m presented with the day’s dare. Also, I find it hard to believe that more than a handful of people reading the book are not Christian. Although over five million copies are in print, it’s published and distributed by distinctly Christian companies and promoted by distinctly Christian movies like Fireproof.

Some of my friends loved days 19 and 20. I can see where they’re coming from, but I find these last couple of dares not geared towards Christian readers, of which I believe the vast majority of readers are.

Love Dare – Day 19

Before I get to writing about Day 19, I thought I’d get back to 18 since it was postponed.

DAY 18

I was going to cook for my wife, but we decided to eat out all day instead. Kristin knows that I can definitely cook, but I think the point of the love dare was to have intentional conversation with your spouse so that you learn a little more about one another.

Hong Kong was dark and full of heavy rain most of the day. It was perfect for an inside, date day and a TV show marathon. But first, we settled in at a Starbucks (literally across the street) and chatted. The conversation was so lively that I went through a grande Americano and a blueberry muffin and started in on a second coffee before we even picked up the books we brought. Nice!

We spent the rest of the day together and continued into the night. We really lived it up: take-out sushi for lunch, Hard Rock Cafe for dinner, live music for dessert, and then a long walk home. Although I didn’t cook a meal tonight, it felt quite romantic, and our attention was certainly on one another. Therefore, I will count Day 18 as checked off!

DAY 19

It was not so much a dare, but rather an altar call to receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior. I was a little shocked, but also thought it was cool in its boldness. The reason the book took this tack on the dares was this paragraph:

The hard news is this: love that is able to withstand every pressure is out of your reach, as long as you’re only looking within yourself to find it. You need someone who can give you that kind of love. “Love from God” (1 John 4:7). And only those who have allowed Him into their heart through faith in His Son, Jesus – only those who have received the Spirit of Christ through belief in His death and resurrection – are able to tap into love’s real power. “Apart from me,” Jesus said, “you can do nothing” (John 15:5).

The dare reflect back on the previous dares, and see if I was trying to practice unconditional love on my own accord. However, I am all to aware of my shortcomings, and I know that I desperately need His help!

Day 19 accomplished.