Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life!
Hahaha! Vain life. Ecclesiastes is full of wisdom and even more full of sarcasm and melancholy.
[NOTE: I just used the equally, grammatically correct more full when fuller would’ve also sufficed. However, I didn’t want to confuse anyone by using the term fuller whereby they might think of the seminary located in Pasadena, California. This is a blog created by a Christ follower after all.]
The dare was to spend the day with your wife as much as possible and complete a project that you’ve been putting off. Fortunately, it was Monday, and we always have that day off! And there was a project to complete that we had been procrastinating! What an gimme regarding love dares…
We spent the day packing our belongings that we wanted to ship back to the United States and then mailing them at the post office. We took a break for a date lunch out to Sushi One, another favorite activity, and then resumed our work until it was completed. Then for the rest of the night we were able to relax, so we watched Men In Black 3 and capped off the evening with drinks on the rooftop of IFC near Red Bar.
What a great day! The only thing that could’ve made it better is if I were in better health. I had to fight to not be grumpy while I had a headache and a stuffy nose.
Our words are powerful.
James 3 talks about the need to tame our tongue, one of the most powerful weapons we have. The book of James even compares the tongue to a ship’s rudder, small but extremely powerful in shaping the course of travel – or in this case, the course of a conversation.
I know just the right words that can either build up and encourage my wife or words that will get under her skin. This is just one of the many by-products of marriage. Today, in a moment of frustration, I started to let my words get away from me. Fortunately, (probably by the prompting of the Holy Spirit), I was able to silence my tongue, regain some control, and steer the conversation back towards a topic way more positive. Still, this moment of exchange was enough to shift the mood of the afternoon for a short while, and if it were possible, I’d like to regain and redeem that jaded time.
I hope and pray that I can choose my words wisely, especially around my wife and loved ones. If I can’t love those closest to me, how can I be expected to love those that hate me?
My wife is amazing.
We have great conversations, and she’s able to both encourage and challenge me. For that, I’m very thankful. I hope and pray that I can reciprocate, man-up, and be an equally loving husband.
Some days, weeks, or even months can be filled with challenges and frustrations. That’s why it’s important to have a good outlet or two or 14. Today, I accessed them all.
I’m very thankful for all my outlets. This post is dedicated to them:
- Jesus – “For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:30)
- My wife – You are amazing and a God-send. Thank you for your listening ear and encouraging words
- My accountability partner – For agreeing to pray for me regularly
- Good friends – That put up with my ranting and raving and also listen to me and provide good advice
- The HK Youth workers – Thank you for praying over the Island ECC staff today. So many of you are also tons of fun (especially that intense foosball game today!)
- The Witthoft family – You are good friends, ideal mentors, and extremely gracious
Now if only I were healthy enough to play ultimate frisbee at this time… I would have used that outlet too!
Make haste, O God, to deliver me!
O LORD, make haste to help me!
Let them be put to shame and confusion
who seek my life!
Let them be turned back and brought to dishonor
who delight in my hurt!
Let them turn back because of their shame
who say, “Aha, Aha!”
May all who seek you
rejoice and be glad in you!
May those who love your salvation
say evermore, “God is great!”